Separation

One Of The Most Difficult Decisions In Life Is Choosing To Separate From Your Spouse

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DO’S AND DON’TS BEFORE SEPARATING

  • Contact a divorce lawyer before taking action.
  • If you or your spouse were involved in an extramarital affair, talk to your attorney first before discussing it with your spouse.
  • Adultery is illegal in the state of North Carolina, admission of an affair can have other significant consequences in the divorce process in North Carolina. If your spouse is a candidate for alimony, any illicit sexual behavior on your part could end up costing you more in additional alimony payments.
  • Do not just move out without communicating with your spouse especially if you are the primary breadwinner. This could be considered marital abandonment or desertion.
  • Think about how you will share custody of your children with your spouse. The type of custody schedule will depend upon many factors such as, ages of your children, school, childcare, holidays, work and travel obligations, and other factors.
  • Protect your finances. Make an inventory of all accounts. You will need to open a checking account in just your name.
  • Gather Information
    Each party will be required to disclose his or her financial information during the divorce, but it doesn’t hurt to have this information for your personal records. You may want to get copies of all of the following information:

    1. Bank statements
    2. Tax returns
    3. Retirement account statements
    4. Mortgage statements
    5. Credit card bills
    6. Other debts
    7. Real estate records
    8. Business records
BEGINNING THE

SEPARATION PROCESS

HOW DO I BEGIN THE PROCESS

You and your spouse need to be living in different homes, and at least one of you needs to intend that the separation be permanent. You have to be legally separated for one (1) year and a day before filing for an absolute divorce.

PREPARE TO PAY SUPPORT

If you are the primary breadwinner in your home, you may be responsible for spousal support plus child support if you have minor children.

Drafting the Separation agreement

Separation agreements are generally prepared and negotiated by family law attorneys, who can tailor the agreement to the needs of your family.

Moving into Separate residences

You are not legally separated if your relationship has ended but you still live in the same home.

Separation terms

A separation agreement sets the agreed-upon terms for dealing with various issues related to the separation, such as which spouse is responsible for certain bills, who will continue to live in the marital home, or where the children will live, and how assets acquired, before, during and after the marriage will be divided.

CHILD VISITATION SCHEDULE

Without a custody order, both parents have equal rights to their children at separation.

UNDERSATNDING THE LAW

SEPARATION AND PROPERTY SETTLEMENT AGREEMENTS

In North Carolina, individuals may enter into a Separation Agreement provided said agreement is not inconsistent with public policy. A properly prepared agreement shall be legal, valid and binding in all respects provided that the separation agreement is in writing and acknowledged by both parties before a “certifying officer” as defined in N.C.G.S. §52-10(b).

§ 52-10. Contracts between husband and wife generally; releases.

(a) Contracts between husband and wife not inconsistent with public policy are valid, and any persons of full age about to be married and married persons may, with or without a valuable consideration, release and quitclaim such rights which they might respectively acquire or may have acquired by marriage in the property of each other; and such releases may be pleaded in bar of any action or proceeding for the recovery of the rights and estate so released. No contract or release between husband and wife made during their coverture shall be valid to affect or change any part of the real estate of either spouse, or the accruing income thereof for a longer time than three years next ensuing the making of such contract or release, unless it is in writing and is acknowledged by both parties before a certifying officer. (a1) A contract between a husband and wife made, with or without a valuable consideration, during a period of separation to waive, release, or establish rights and obligations to post separation support, alimony, or spousal support is valid and not inconsistent with public policy. A provision waiving, releasing, or establishing rights and obligations to post separation support, alimony, or spousal support shall remain valid following a period of reconciliation and subsequent separation, if the contract satisfies all of the following requirements:
(1) The contract is in writing.
(2) The provision waiving the rights or obligations is clearly stated in the contract.
(3) The contract was acknowledged by both parties before a certifying officer.
A release made pursuant to this subsection may be pleaded in bar of any action or proceeding for the recovery of the rights released.
(b) Such certifying officer shall be a notary public, or a justice, judge, magistrate, clerk, assistant clerk or deputy clerk of the General Court of Justice, or the equivalent or corresponding officers of the state, territory or foreign country where the acknowledgment is made. Such officer must not be a party to the contract.
(c) This section shall not apply to any judgment of the superior court or other State court of competent jurisdiction, which, by reason of its being consented to by a husband and wife, or their attorneys, may be construed to constitute a contract or release between such husband and wife. (1871-2, c. 193, s. 28; Code, s. 1836; Rev., s. 2108; C.S., s. 2516; 1959, c. 879, s. 12; 1965, c. 878, s. 1; 1977, c. 375, s. 2; 2013-140, s. 1.)

NORTH CAROLINA

Marital Property Laws In A Divorce

It is important to understand what property you will get to keep and what you will have to split with your spouse, as well as who will be responsible for your marital debts when separating.

There are 3 types of property involved in the Equitable Distribution Process.

  1. Separate Property
  2. Marital Property
  3. Divisible Property
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COMMON QUESTIONS ASKED DURING A SEPARATION

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